Wife’s niece telling lies on my brother

Dear Pastor,

I am writing you this letter seeking your advice. I am married and my wife and I have two children.

My wife also has a niece who lives with us. She is going to college and we are doing our best to help her by not charging her for boarding. My wife is a nurse and I do trucking. My brother came to stay with us for a short period of time and my wife's niece complained to her that he asked her for sex. My brother denied it. But my wife said I should ask my brother to leave. I asked her niece if my brother touched her and she said no, but he told her that when she walks, her bottom is just rolling and she is tempting him.

I am the only relative my brother has in this area, so I told my wife that we should allow him to spend the amount of time he came here for. My wife said that she cannot allow him to remain in the house, so whenever I am going a long distance, he should travel with me. I cannot take my brother with me all the time. I do not believe what my wife's niece is saying. This girl lies a lot.

Before I got married, she mentioned to my wife that I always looked at her and that was a blatant lie. I told my wife that if my brother cannot stay here until he is ready to leave, I would not allow any of her relatives to visit her here. This girl just wants trouble. My brother said that the girl asked him for some money and he told her that he didn't have any, and he believed that that is why she made up a story against him.

My brother has his girlfriend and I reminded my wife that he is not lacking sex. I know what I said to my wife was not right, but right before her and her niece, I told him that I will give him the money to go and spend time with a prostitute. I even showed him a box of condoms I have in the house and I told him that he can use as many of them as he pleases.

Pastor, my wife is very hard. She wants me to put out my brother in this cold weather.

K.T.

Dear K.T.,

I think what you are trying to say is that you believe that this girl is lying on your brother, but your wife believes what she has accused him of.

You cannot be sure who is speaking the truth. But you rather not ask your brother to leave your house at this time. Your wife would like to see him go immediately, but you would rather him stay because it would be cruel to have him face the cold weather in the particular area in which you are living.

What you did might have been crude to some people, but you showed your brother condoms and told him that if he wanted a woman, he should use condoms, and you would offer him money to pay a prostitute. That was the best way you could deal with the matter. I am not going to condemn you for what you did.

Although you do not know anywhere that you can ask your brother to go and stay, perhaps you can still look around. You know how hospitable Jamaicans are. A good friend of yours might take him in for the rest of the days he should be in America, but beg him to keep away from your wife's niece. He should be smart enough not to look at her. You know her to be a liar. The girl lied on you, but your wife does not want him in the house. I wish you well.

Pastor