My ex-boyfriend trying to get me pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am a 40-year-old woman. I am living with a man who does not eat meat, so I have to be cooking two pots because I have three children who are not his.

He told me that I should stop cooking meat, but I told him that the children still ask me for meat. He buys fish, but the fish that he buys is not enough for all of us.

I am living in his house, so I try to follow his rules. I am not able to pay rent on my own. My children's father does not give me much. He thinks that, because I am living in this man's house, that the man is supporting me very well. I am ashamed to tell you but, a few times, I have had to go out, meet my babyfather and have sex with him to get extra money. Every time I have sex with him, he curses me and tells me that he knows that he is sweeter than my man.

This man I am living with has caused me to do so many wrong things. I would love to stop, but I don't have anywhere to go. One of my sons loves to play football, so I have to feed him well. My children know that I am not happy. They always tell me what they will do for me when they grow up, and I told them I can't wait.

Please don't get me wrong. This man I am living with is a nice guy. This is his house, he pays the utility bills. He is not cruel to me, nor is he rough on the children. But I am not happy. I don't know if he has another girlfriend, because sometimes he comes home late. But, if I question him, he tells me that he is a big man so I should not question him.

Anytime I have sex with the children's father, I have to protect myself because he does not believe in using the condom. He told me not long ago that he would like to impregnate me again. I told him he would be a wicked man to do that.

W.

Dear W.,

Try and find another place to live. You are not compatible with the man you are living with.

You know what he is giving you is not enough to feed the household, and you have to be going to the other man occasionally to have sex with him to get more money. The question is how long you are going to keep up with that. What if this man you are living with finds out about what you are doing? He will throw you out and you will have to go and find another man.

Try and get yourself a better job that will pay you more so that you will be able to support yourself and your children.

Pastor