I can’t satisfy my wife

Dear Pastor,

I am a 51-year-old man. I got married when was 27 year old. That union did not work out very well.

My wife was too jealous. In my type of job, I had to interact with a lot of females. My wife was always accusing me of having intercourse with these women. I cannot say that I did not get involved a couple times, but not as frequent as my wife said.

Things got out of hand and the police arrested me. My wife and I never had a good life together after we went to court. So we divorced each other and now I am married again. However, this relationship is not working out well either. My present wife is in her 30s. She is complaining that I am unable to satisfy her. She cannot be satisfied, although I have tried everything. I told her that I am an old man now.

My wife has purchased a vibrator and is not afraid to use it in my presence. It is very annoying to me, but that is what the world has gone to. Women who claim to be wives have no respect for men.

We went for counselling and she told the counsellor that it is either I tolerate what she is doing or she is prepared to leave. Everything is well between us, except the sex. She wants to have sex at least two times per night. I told her that I have to go to work and her response is that I should have known that when I married her.

I beg for your suggestion.

B.

Dear B.,

I would encourage you to stay with your wife. I wouldn't say that you have made a mistake by marrying her, because I am assuming that you still love her. Keep going to see the counsellor. Remember, counselling is not something one should do once; schedule time with the counsellor.

Please do not argue with your wife. She has her needs and your responsibility is to endeavour to satisfy these needs.

I wish you well.

Pastor