Pastor’s wife does soul-searching - Says secret sex activities in church on her conscience

The pastor's wife whose private adult-themed gatherings inside a church building recently made headlines has confessed that the season Lent stirs more than just traditional reflection for her.

In fact, Candy* says it forces her to confront some questions about her actions.

"There are moments during this time of year where I think about what I'm doing hosting sexual activities in the church," Candy admitted.

"From the outside looking in, people will say it's wrong, so it rests on my conscience. I question whether I am walking the line too closely. I never dismiss that tension," she told THE STAR.

Candy's gatherings, which are private and require financial contributions, have drawn criticism for blending sacred spaces with adult expression. As many as 30 women normally stay behind after church to engage in sexual activities with men who are sourced from outside and brought into the sanctuary to pleasure the women.

THE STAR understands that girl-on-girl action is part of the happenings, even though the pastor's wife refused to confirm or deny this information. Candy, however, said no after-service shenanigans will take place this week, but was quick to point out that the beginning of Lent has no bearing on the decision.

"Lent is not a moral certificate and participating does not mean I'm claiming perfection," she said.

Lent represents a season of reflection, self-discipline, and spiritual renewal, where Christian believers examine their lives, resist temptation, and seek closer alignment with their faith. Many people use Lent to give up something they enjoy, testing their self-control and deepening their spiritual focus.

Candy, asked by THE STAR whether she intends to give up the after-church activities was philosophical in her response.

She argues that the language of "the flesh" is frequently reduced to sex alone. "You know what satisfies the flesh? Greed satisfies the flesh. Anger satisfies the flesh. Control satisfies the flesh. The question is whether you are mastered by it."

"People speak about denying the flesh as if that means denying sexuality altogether," Candy said. "But Christianity has never taught that sex within consent is evil. You can choose not to give up sex for Lent as well as you can chose who you want to have sex with, in or outside of any marriage," she said.

Candy emphasises that her faith is guided by personal conviction, not societal judgement.

"I am open to growth, and if I become convicted that something in my life no longer aligns with my faith, I will address it. But I do not make spiritual decisions under pressure," Candy said.

She continued: "You don't prune a tree because the neighbours are impatient, prune it when the season is right. Otherwise, you risk cutting away something that hasn't finished growing."

Candy believes that honesty with oneself is the first step toward growth.

"Don't wait until you believe you are flawless to seek God," she said. "If you are struggling, reflect. If you are conflicted, pray. Growth does not begin when you are clean, it begins when you are honest."

She urged believers to examine themselves.

"Use the season to look inward," she said. "Ask yourself where you lack discipline. Ask yourself what governs you. Lent is not about comparing sins, it's about confronting your own," she said.